i’ve been in a great little email exchange with my grandma this week (yes, she is hip to email!) and i just had to share this pearl of wisdom:
“remember when things become overwhelming, it will all work out, even if it isn’t quite what you had planned. those things that seemed to be disasters at the time, become the family stories of the future, and usually with much laughter and enjoyment.”
in proof, she shared a few notes from her mom’s (my great-grandmom’s) wedding:
“My Dad was not Catholic and a southerner to boot, so the wedding took place in the parish rectory. The pastor was a good friend of Mom’s and was seriously against the marriage. The pastor allowed a BestMan and a Bridesmaid at the ceremony – and no pictures. He made everything as difficult as possible. Following the ceremony family and friends survived a rather lively party with practical jokes played on the couple, especially the groom, by Mom’s 5 brothers. It couldn’t have been too bad because the marriage lasted 64 years.”
and a note on her own, which just celebrated its 50th year in September! (see pic up above: that’s grandma & papa re-enacting their cake cutting ceremony at the big shindig we threw to celebrate. cake smashed in the face after 50 years!)
“All my plans for a February wedding had to be ditched because Papa told me in July that he wanted to be married before he turned 40 (which would take place the 12th of September). You can imagine the mad scramble I had to plan a wedding in September. It was much smaller than original plans, but it was a lovely wedding anyway and Papa and I celebrated 50 years of marriage with the most wonderful family anyone could possibly have.”
i so loved reading these little snippets! they remind me that steve and i have a long history of very successful marriages preceding us and we continue to have lots of support as we plan for the big day. love you, grandma!